Your perspective is your reality

Often we worry about what others think of us. How often though would their opinions really affect the way we live our lives? Hopefully not too much! Yes, people coming in and out of our lives act as teachers. Their lessons can come to us in a positive or negative fashion, but either way they leave some sort of impact whether you are reminded of it every day or never think twice about them.

I have struggled with how others perceive me for most of my life. I hate feeling judged. It's imaginable that most people do. Whether or not people like what I have to say, I'm very honest. The problem is that I'm also sometimes a little too blunt. Working on that, thanks to my husband. It's actually been a work in progress for the last seven years of our marriage. Luckily he is patient.

Is honesty the best policy if you don't use the best words or tone? I would like to think yes. I'm completely turned off by someone who lies or deceives me. Yesterday morning in the shower (this is where I put on my thinking cap) I decided that honesty, no matter it's context, always has the upper hand in a situation. I will continue to be upfront, honest and may sparingly sugar coat so that I don't come off as an ice-cold bitch.  I told my husband after my shower aha! moment that even though people may not like what I have to say, they will know that I'm speaking, feeling and projecting my honesty. THAT will resonate. They will feel it and remember it. At first, it may be unappealing but so are lies. That bad taste from a lie sticks around for a long time. The bitterness that may come with an honest approach fades quickly and people are more likely to appreciate it later.

Fearing what others think of us is a huge waste of time. I saw this picture today...what a great reminder of my thoughts from yesterday.

And of course Dr. Suess always worded things quite well. This was actually my mantra last month.